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The Complete Body Safety System

The words to keep your child safe, ready to read tonight.

The words to keep your child safe, ready to read tonight.

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You've been meaning to have this conversation. Tonight, you actually will, with word-for-word scripts for the 7 rules that keep your child safe.

Already covered "good touch / bad touch"? That's about 2 of the 7 rules, and the ones most parents miss are the ones that matter most.

Read one card at bedtime, your first conversation takes under 5 minutes.
Age-specific scripts for 3‑5, 6‑8, and 9‑10, written for where your child is now.
Covers what most parents miss, like the Tricky Touch rule and No Bad Secrets.
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Here's what most parents don't know:

Unsafe touch doesn't always hurt.

It can feel ticklish. Confusing. Even nice. A child who's only been taught that "bad touch hurts" won't recognize it when it doesn't, and won't tell anyone, because nothing felt "wrong."

That's the gap. It's the rule most parents have never taught, and it's the one that matters most.

You don't need to be a therapist. You just need the right words.

1 in 4 girls. 1 in 6 boys. 90% already knew the person. Most never told anyone, because nobody gave them the words.

What's Inside the System

  • 7 Core Rule Cards

    Each of the 7 body safety rules explained in simple, child-friendly language.

  • 21 Age-Specific Script Cards

    Exact conversations for ages 3-5, 6-8, and 9-10. Word for word.

  • 15 "What Would You Do?" Scenario Cards

    Practice makes permanent. Realistic situations to rehearse together.

  • Quick-Start Guide (3 Pages)

    Which rule to start with tonight. How long the first conversation takes (~5 min).

  • Safety Circle Worksheet

    Your child writes down 5 specific people they can tell anything to.

  • Printable Poster

    The 7 Rules in kid-friendly language for their wall or fridge.

  • "If They Tell You" Guide

    The guide you pray you'll never need, but need to have ready. Exactly what to say (and what NOT to say) if your child ever discloses something.
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How it works

(it's easier than you think)

1. Pick your child's age group
Scripts are tailored for ages 3–5, 6–8, and 9–10, so every word lands right.

2. Open the first rule card and read it together
Word-for-word. No prep, no memorizing, no "figuring it out." Just read.

3. Practice with the scenario cards
"What would you do if…" games that feel like play, but build real protection.

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"I'll just explain it myself."

That's what most of us think. And honestly? The intention is beautiful.

But here's the thing nobody tells you: knowing WHAT to teach isn't the same as knowing HOW to say it.

Say it too casually, and it doesn't stick. Say it too seriously, and you scare them. Use the wrong words for their age, and it goes in one ear and out the other. Skip one concept, and there's a gap a predator knows how to use.

Child safety educators train for years to get the phrasing right.

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The 7 Rules Your Child Needs to Know (That Nobody Taught Us)

  • 1. My Body Belongs to Me

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  • 2. The Real Names Rule

    If they only know "wee-wee," they can't tell anyone what happened. Real words matter.

  • 3. The Private Parts Rule

    Not just WHAT'S private, but WHO can see, and WHEN. No gray areas.

  • 4. The Consent Rule

    Their body, their rules. Even when Grandma wants a hug.

  • 5. The Tricky Touch Rule

    Unsafe touch doesn't always feel "bad." This rule handles the confusing stuff.

  • 6. The No Bad Secrets Rule

    Surprises end with smiles. Secrets about bodies? Always a trick.

  • 7. The Safety Circle Rule

    "Tell a grown-up" is too vague. They need 5 specific people they can tell anything.
Each rule comes with the exact words to say, written for their age, ready to read together tonight.

Peek Inside the System

  • Script Cards

  • 7 Rules Poster

  • Safety Circle
Clear. Simple. Ready to use at bedtime.

I spent 10 years teaching social-emotional learning in classrooms. I knew all the frameworks. And I still couldn't figure out how to have this conversation with my own 4-year-old. So I built the tool I wished someone had handed me, word for word, rule by rule. No guessing."

, Debbie, Founder & Former SEL EducatorMom of two · Creator of the Big Feelings Deck (26,000+ families)

Based on PCIT & CBT frameworks · Informed by 200+ studies · Age-specific scripts for 3-5, 6-8, and 9-10

Why I Made This

Hi, I'm Debbie. Mom of two. Former SEL educator. And honestly? The person who spent way too long not knowing how to have this conversation with my own kids.

I teach this stuff. I studied it. And I still froze up when my 4-year-old asked me a question about her body in the bathtub.

That's when I realized, the problem isn't that parents don't care. It's that nobody gave us the words.

So I built the thing I wished existed. Exact scripts. Practice scenarios. A poster for the fridge. Something I could download at 9 PM and actually use at bedtime.

10,472 families later, I know it works. Not because I'm special, because the system is. And I want your family to have it too.

, Debbie ❤️

Frequently Asked Questions

Is my child too young for this?

If they're 3+, they're ready. The system includes scripts specifically designed for 3-5 year olds using simpler language and shorter concepts. Starting early actually makes these conversations easier and more natural.

Won't this scare my child?

The opposite. When body safety is taught like any other rule, calm, matter-of-fact, the way you'd teach looking both ways before crossing, kids feel more confident, not more afraid. The scripts never describe abuse or use scary language. They give your child clear rules, not fear.

I've already talked about "good touch / bad touch." Is this different?

Yes, and honestly, the old approach can backfire. Unsafe touch doesn't always feel "bad." It can feel confusing, ticklish, or even pleasant. Children who only know "bad = scary" won't recognize abuse when it doesn't fit that definition. The Tricky Touch Rule specifically addresses this.

How is this different from a body safety book like the ones by Jayneen Sanders or Jill Starishevsky?

Books tell your child a story. This gives you the script. A book covers one or two ideas and your child reads it, but it can't tell you what to say when they ask a question, or how to practice, or what to do if they ever tell you something. This is a parent-led system: word-for-word scripts by age, practice scenarios, and a response guide for the conversation you hope you never have. One system covers all 7 rules and all your kids, instead of five or six separate books.

Is this just printable PDFs?

No, this is a complete body safety conversation system: 43 cards and 4 expert guides organized into a step-by-step framework. Use them on your phone, tablet, or print them. Most parents start their first conversation the same night they get access.

What if my child has already experienced something?

This system is designed for prevention and ongoing education. If your child has experienced abuse, these tools can still help reinforce safety concepts, especially the "Never Your Fault" rule and Safety Circle. However, this is not a replacement for professional support.

Will this give them ideas?

No. There's nothing graphic here. We're teaching body rules, real names, privacy, the difference between surprises and secrets. Simple stuff they can understand without being scared or confused.

We don't really talk about private things in our family. Is this still for us?

Yes. The scripts are matter-of-fact, not clinical. You're teaching body rules the same way you'd teach street safety, no awkward "talks," just clear rules they can follow. Many religious and traditional families actually find this easier because the rules are simple and the language is clean.

How long does each conversation take?

Most parents complete one rule in 3–5 minutes. The first conversation might take a little longer as you both get comfortable, but after that it's quick. Many families do it at bedtime, just pick a card, read it together, done. No prep needed.